What did your report say?

My love for words and all forms of communication was quite evident from a very early age.  Proving this, I recently stumbled upon my 6th grade report card and the teacher’s comments on the back of the card said, “highly imaginative but inclined to be chatty.”

“Chatty,”  yes, that’s one word for it.  And that label (as labels often do) would harm more than help.

Back then, I would often feel like I was “too much.” I would speak, then take my words back, or feel guilty that I had been too expressive, too much for the other person to handle. I felt like even just a little of me was overpowering to others, so I would sometimes shut down.

On the flipside, when in  “chatty” mode, I could talk my way out of just about anything. I could tell huge, wonderful fibs, and often was called upon to make phone calls for my older, more reserved siblings for movie times (back then, there were live operators!) and for other kinds of information.

Later in life, when at my best, I was at ease with just about anyone. I could easily connect, build rapport, and was comfortable in most groups.

And while sometimes, even today, it proves challenging for me to control how much to say, or where to say it (I have occasionally had to pull both of my feet out of my mouth), my love affair with language and words and sounds, and anything to do with communication, continues to grow.

Passionate, joyful, at times, self-indulgent self-expression is what I am about. Colorful descriptive language, at times to shock, provoke, connect, illustrate, teach, coach, negotiate, facilitate, create, I love it all!

I think back on younger days, when in high school I earned an impressive 700 verbal SAT score, and an embarrasing 400 in math (can’t help but to think about the song, “Dance Ten, Looks Three,” for you “Chorus Line” fans out there) — the course was set. I was a words guy, that was the simple fact.

So, in following that calling, my target and niche in business is to help leaders engage their constituencies more effectively through the printed and spoken word.

My work involves all things to do with communication – from looking at self-talk and its impact on energy and communication (did you ever notice that we will say things to ourselves we wouldn’t say to our own dogs?!) to helping leaders manage difficult conversations (even wrote a book on the subject, outing myself as a recovering people pleaser), to looking at their communications style, and how it is working for or against them.

I have set out on a course to understand all facets of language – and to help to individuals and organizations to become more conscious and selective about the words they use, because words are powerful things!

The choice of words that people use  can create positive relationships, or they can shut down  or even destroy relationships.

And while it may seem like a too lofty goal, to make the world a more positive place one conversation at a time, that is what gets me up in the morning.

I don’t think, at the time, that my 6th grade teacher realized the power in her words. For years, I would think that “having the gift of the gab” was not a good thing….

Well, thank you teacher, for today, I not only see the gift in the gift of gab,  I seek to empower others to find their voice and own it,

Just imagine a world where language creates powerful, positive opportunities for one and all. A world where words are used to lift each other up, to build and create, to lead and engage   Awesome, heady stuff!

 

If you are interested in learning more about how communications training and coaching works, feel free to contact me at alan@alancohenexecutivecoaching.com.  We’ll chat!!!

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August 31, 2014

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Executive Mastermind

August 31, 2014

Create specific and concise goals: Larendee Roos will show you how to master the art of creating a business plan that drives success. Define what you want for your life and your business to get RESULTS. Understand why people buy what you’re selling: Dawn Doherty will step you through how to define your ideal client [...]

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Back to School!

September 9, 2013

Often in my youth what seemed to be a criticism to expand upon my growth was heard as something that was “bad”.  When I was a little kid in school I received many a report card saying that I was “Chatty”. Now, if you know me at all you know that this is not a [...]

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Announcement: Your Life After Trauma Radio Appearance

April 1, 2013

Sometimes it’s nice to get out of email and be LIVE for a change — which is exactly what I’ll be doing Wednesday, April 3, and I’m inviting you to join me! I’ve been scheduled to appear as a guest on Your Life After Trauma with Michele Rosenthal. If your life has gotten to a [...]

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